Words I Need Today

It’s okay to not be okay.

  • It’s okay to struggle despite knowing that those who came before us endured much worse.
  • It’s okay to feel like doing nothing is suffocating.
  • It’s okay to be angry. 
  • It’s okay to have mood swings. You don’t need to be attached to any particular mental state.
  • It’s okay to feel lonely despite digital connection. It’s not the same for everyone.
  • It’s okay to feel a ton of emotions simultaneously, even if they don’t seem to make sense.
  • It’s okay to feel scared.
  • It’s okay to dislike the uncertainty of it all.
  • It’s okay to not be productive sometimes. 
  • It’s okay to go an entire day without doing any work (I am grateful for the flexible nature of what I do).
  • It’s okay to not constantly be bettering myself.
  • It’s okay to feel unmotivated.
  • It’s okay to feel like self-isolation is bringing up issues you’d thought you’d already overcome (general anxiety, depression, old conflicts).
  • It’s okay to not work out every day.
  • It’s okay to work out 2+ times a day too.
  • It’s okay to spend an hour just hugging your dog (if your dog allows that, of course).
  • It’s okay to sleep in (your body probably appreciates the extra rest).
  • It’s okay to need help (I have a call with my therapist tomorrow. This is a great time to utilize resources like Better Help if you have access).
  • It’s okay to be sad. For yourself. For your loved ones. For the world.
  • It’s okay to just be surviving right now. Getting to tomorrow is good enough.

It’s also okay to feel good.

  • It’s okay to feel gratitude despite the terrifying statistics on the news.
    • I have a shelter right now and the added benefit of a balcony for when the weather gets nicer.
    • I have enough food to get me through another week, and enough money to buy more when I need it.
    • I saved so much money that I haven’t had to work for someone else for over 3 months (and I’ll be good for the next 4 months despite what is happening in the world). I’m proud of that.
    • I get to spend an excessive amount of time with BB, who usually enjoys my company.
    • My coffee supply is solid.
    • I can run again.
  • It’s okay to turn the news off to protect your mental state.
  • It’s okay to go outside and enjoy the hell out of it. Nature brings most everyone joy.
  • It’s okay to get yourself little gifts that make you feel good. I had to get supplies and added fresh flowers and a candle to my cart. If I’m gonna be inside all day, it’s gonna be pretty and smell good.
  • It’s okay to have moments of complete contentedness. Sometimes being alone DOES feel good, and that’s okay (even if it wasn’t my choice).
  • It’s okay to happily get sucked into a Netflix bingefest, especially now. It’s really not keeping me from doing anything I “should” be doing!

These are strange times, and we all deal with it day-by-day, as best we can. Sometimes my best is pretty ugly (and that’s okay). Seeing vulnerability and solidarity in others helps me feel valid right now. If these are words you also need today, I hope you can hear them.

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